Isnโt desire always the same, whether the object is present or absent? Isnโt the object always absent? โThis isnโt the same languor: there are two words: Pothos, desire for the absent being, and Himรฉros, the more burning desire for the present being.
Roland BarthesTo whom could I put this question (with any hope of an answer)? Does being able to live without someone you loved mean you loved her less than you thought...?
Roland Barthes