Vanity and narcissism โ the compulsive need to be admired and praised โ undermine one's courage, for one then fights on someone else's conviction rather than one's own.
Rollo MayWhen I fall in love, I feel more valuable and I treat myself with more care. We have all observed the hesitant adolescent, uncertain of himself, who, when he or she falls in love, suddenly walks with a certain inner assuredness and confidence, a mien which seems to say, "You are looking at somebody now." For this inner sense of worth that comes with being in love does not seem to depend essentially on whether the love is returned or not.
Rollo MayThe hallmark of courage in our age of conformity is the capacity to stand on one's own convictions - not obstinately or defiantly
Rollo May