The dead and not-yet dead, we are company all together.
After a lifetime's independenceโ yes, selfish independence as my daughter would rightly claim โ I am terrified of being reduced to childhood once more, to helplessness, to seas of confusion from which the cruel lucid intervals poke up like rock shoals.
I am afraid of losing what I have already valued.
Wherever you look there is so much loss and folly to contemplate.
Learning is important. It is a way to make a life better for yourself and your family.
Let her be with her memories. Better that than be aware of this reality.