I have no wisdom and nothing useful to tell you - I only mentioned this because it came into my head.
Russell HobanSometimes I think that the biggest difference between men and women is that more men need to seek out some terrible lurking thing in existence and hurl themselves upon it. Women know where it lives but they can let it alone.
Russell HobanMy generation was somewhat between things, neither free nor much supported by whatever held us in.
Russell Hoban