We suffer more often in imagination than in reality. [We must learn to control and focus the force of our imagination on the good, bright side so it is positive and constructive helping ourselves and others, rather than let its force focus on the bad, dark side so it is negative and destructive hurting ourselves and others!]
Seneca the YoungerIt takes the whole of life to learn how to live, and - even more surprising - it takes the whole of life to learn how to die.
Seneca the Younger