The pressure we put on ourselves to produce this perfect... operatic... version of ourselves really puts an inordinate amount of stress and tension on us.

The more you focus on connection the more free you are on one hand and the more free you can be because the child does feel authentically connected to their destiny.

Children are way more articulate, way more connected to their rights, and they want to be fully participating, empowered members of society but we have to release and we have to let go. We have to allow children to enter their self-governance and their state of empowered presence.

[I'm a conscious parent when I] believe that my child matters more than their relationship to academics or success.

Now when you transfer into the conscious parenting paradigm, you have to release those pressures and those fears... you actually think into the very ordinary but profound moment to moment connection to your children and you do away with those extraneous attachments to achievement or beauty or wealth or success. And while those things have their place, they don't overwhelm or override the life of the parent and child. Your life is actually suddenly liberated.

The traditional paradigm of parenting has been very hierarchical, the parent knows best and very top down. Conscious parenting topples [this paradigm] on its head and creates this mutuality, this circularity where both parent and child serve each other and where in fact, perhaps, the child could be even more of a guru for the parent .... teaching the parent how the parent needs to grow, teaching the parent how to enter the present moment like only children know how to do.

If you want to enter into a state of pure connection with your child, you can achieve this by setting aside any sense of superiority.