So it is that God tugs at a pilgrim's sleeve telling him to remember that he is only human. He must be his own man, remain in exile, and belong to himself. He must pay attention to his own feelings and to the meaning of what he does, if he is to be for himself, and yet for others as well.

Sometimes life seems like a poorly designed cage within which man has been sentenced to be free.

Everything good is costly, and the development of the personality is one of the most costly of all things. It will cost you your innocence, your illusions, your certainty. (10)

He may only get to keep that which he is willing to let go of.

Maintaining the illusion that I am in control is futile, lonely, and in the long run more always costly than the effort is worth.

We must learn to give ourselves permission to blunder, to fail, and to make fools of ourselves every day for the rest of our lives. We do so in any case.

You can't make anyone love you. You just have to reveal who you are and take your chances. (105)