There are a couple of poems I've written with masculine muses, very often the muse to me is a female.
Shirley Geok-lin LimI had to do the academic writing. At a top research university, publishing of a certain kind is very important. So your friend is right. You can't do three things well.
Shirley Geok-lin LimI was driven, as have been many writers, both by a repulsion of the childhood home's narrow confines and a desire to reach further, to keep desiring more of a future not yet imagined and not yet written down.
Shirley Geok-lin LimThe things that I dislike passionately, I have come to realize, are also part of me.
Shirley Geok-lin Lim