Heterosexuality - whichever gender you are - says that the other gender is very important to you.
Shirley Geok-lin LimI don't know where to place my body. Everyone notices that about me. I'm very restless.
Shirley Geok-lin LimQuite a while ago, I made a conscious choice to place my teaching first, so it was very ego-invested. That decision wasn't a good thing in some ways.
Shirley Geok-lin LimThese commonplace categories - wife, mother, housewife, teacher - are in fact teleological referents. They gesture to profound states of being that animate, absorb and saturate the subject, like indelible dyes spilled repeatedly over a plain fabric. No matter if the fabric is sturdy or delicate, translucent or opaque, those dyes will stain. They will color the days and years and life.
Shirley Geok-lin Lim