In America, it is difficult to be your own man.
If the image one holds of one's self contains elements that don't square with reality, one is best advised to let go of them, however difficult that may be.
I decided in my life that I would do nothing that did not reflect positively on my father's life.
I do know that I'm responsible not for what happens, but for what I make of it.
My father was very big on marriage.
So I'm OK with myself, with history, my work, who I am and who I was.