Choose to be who you are. . . The individual who would become a person must at some point take over his entire being - must, that is, choose herself.
Soren KierkegaardListen to the cry of a woman in labor at the hour of giving birth - look at the dying man's struggle at his last extremity, and then tell me whether something that begins and ends thus could be intended for enjoyment.
Soren Kierkegaard