Knowledge gives power. In practice it is very simple. To control yourself, know yourself.
Sri Nisargadatta MaharajWhen effort is needed, effort will appear. When effortlessness becomes essential, it will assert itself. You need not push life about. Just flow with it and give yourself completely to the task of the present moment.
Sri Nisargadatta MaharajLaugh with people laughing, cry with people crying, but don't fall into the river of world illusion. Stay on the banks.
Sri Nisargadatta MaharajIf you seek reality you must set yourself free of all backgrounds, of all cultures, of all patterns of thinking and feeling. Even the idea of being man or woman, or even human should be discarded. The ocean of life contains all, not only humans. So, first of all abandon all self-identification, stop thinking of yourself as such-and-such or so-and-so, this or that. Abandon all self-concern, worry not about your welfare, material or spiritual, abandon every desire, gross or subtle, stop thinking of achievement of any kind. You are complete here and now, you need absolutely nothing.
Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj