I definitely do feel a pull toward people and places that are far from my own life.
Just because we think of wolves (or the wilderness, or another race) as wild and fierce, doesn't mean there isn't another side to them.
If writers stuck to firsthand experience, novels would be pretty limited.
I don't think I could write about someone I didn't feel some sympathy for.
I despise this weakness in myself - this endless one-sided conversation that takes the place of action.
Clearly the secret of happiness...is a variation on the general principle of banging your head against a wall, and then stopping.