Weather is real. It is absolutely real: when it rains, it rains โ you get wet, there is no question about it. It is also true about weather that you canโt control it; you canโt say if I wish hard enough it wonโt rain. It is equally true that if the weather is bad one day it will get better and what I had to learn was to treat my moods like the weather.
Stephen FrySelf pity is the worst possible emotion anyone can have. And the most destructive. It is, to slightly paraphrase what Wilde said about hatred, and I think actually hatred's a subset of self pity and not the other way around - 'It destroys everything around it, except itself.'
Stephen FryOne of the nice things about looking at a bear is that you know it spends 100 per cent of every minute of every day being a bear. It doesn't strive to become a better bear. It doesn't go to sleep thinking, "I wasn't really a very good bear today". They are just 100 per cent bear, whereas human beings feel we're not 100 per cent human, that we're always letting ourselves down. We're constantly striving towards something, to some fulfilment
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