Research can only present data about the past. No one seriously believes that people's answers to hypothetical questions about the future accurately represent their future behaviour; they merely represent a current attitude, which may or may not be translated into future behaviour.

The King is in his Tower, eating bread and honey. The Breakers in the basement, making all the money.

And didn't they say that, although curiosity killed the cat, satisfaction brought the beast back?

He found himself still with too many questions and not enough answers.

If I cannot horrify, I'll go for the gross out. I'm not proud.

If you expect to succeed as a writer, rudeness should be the second-to-least of your concerns. The least of all should be polite society and what it expects. If you intend to write as truthfully as you can, your days as a member of polite society are numbered, anyway.

Memories are contrary things; if you quit chasing them and turn your back, they often return on their own.