I learned a long time ago that some people would rather die than forgive. It's a strange truth, but forgiveness is a painful and difficult process. It's not something that happens overnight. It's an evolution of the heart.

History is not just facts and events. History is also a pain in the heart and we repeat history until we are able to make another's pain in the heart our own.

I realize that I can be with someone, but on a deeper level I'm not available to them at all. I have attention deficit disorder of the soul.

What matters is giving over to what you love.

And when you get down to it, Lily, that is the only purpose grand enough for a human life. Not just to love but to persist in love.

We become what we pay attention to.

You have untold strengths and resources inside. You have your glorious self.