Marriages we regard as the happiest are those in which each of the partners believes he or she got the best of it.

Nice things are done for our own sake, not for the sake of others. The pleasure must reside in the performance, not in the applause. Good deeds are, in a deeper psychological way, a favor to oneself. If this is not grasped, then our whole sense of personal relationships becomes warped.

Good teaching must be slow enough so that it is not confusing, and fast enough so that it is not boring.

Many people feel "guilty" about things they shouldn't feel guilty about, in order to shut out feelings of guilt about things they should feel guilty about.

The main discomfort in being a middle-of-the-roader is that you get sideswiped by partisans going in both directions.

Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable.

A winner rebukes and forgives; a loser is too Forgiveness breaks the chain of causality because he who forgives you -- out of love -- takes upon himself the consequences of what you have done. Forgiveness, therefore, always entails a sacrifice.