Suffering is our call to attention, our call to investigate the truth of our beliefs.

Most of us grow up with a sense of "I'm not intelligent enough." It's such a sad thing that in the West we worship a certain kind of left-brain intelligence.

The main thing going on around intimacy is that we've developed a lot of strategies so we'll be a desirable package.

When we put down ideas of what life should be like, we are free to wholeheartedly say yes to our life as it is.

I speak a lot about what I call "the trance of unworthiness" which is really epidemic in our culture, this sense of "I'm not enough," or "something's wrong with me." Most of us have some level of it because our culture has all these standards (handed down through our families) of what it means to be okay.

There's healthy attachment, like with a mother and child. It's biologically part of our survival.

Where desire ends up causing suffering is when it fixates.