The trance of unworthiness keeps the sweetness of belonging out of reach. The path to "the sweetness of belonging," is acceptance - acceptance of ourselves and acceptance of others without judgment.

My understanding is that to love, we need to be able to totally surrender to the living/dying nature of this world.

If attachment then carries forward in a way that's not healthy, we need to let it be there without making it wrong and bring as compassionate and honest attention to it as possible. Honor that this is part of being human, but it's important to know when it's getting in the way.

Sometimes the easiest way to appreciate ourselves is by looking through the eyes of someone who loves us.

Observing desire without acting on it enlarges our freedom to choose how we live.

When we put down ideas of what life should be like, we are free to wholeheartedly say yes to our life as it is.

Clearly recognizing what is happening inside us, and regarding what we see with an open, kind and loving heart, is what I call Radical Acceptance. If we are holding back from any part of our experience, if our heart shuts out any part of who we are and what we feel, we are fueling the fears and feelings of separation that sustain the trance of unworthiness. Radical Acceptance directly dismantles the very foundations of this trance.