God's salvation does not come in response to a changed life. A changed life comes in response to the salvation, offered as a free gift.
Timothy KellerOnly if you first seek inner forgiveness will your confrontation be temperate, wise, and gracious. Only when you have lost the need to see the other person hurt will you have any chance of actually bringing about change, reconciliation, and healing. You have to submit to the costly suffering and death of forgiveness if there is going to be any resurrection.
Timothy Keller