Jesus' purpose is not to warm our hearts but to shatter our categories.
Without the gospel we hate ourselves instead of our sin.
You won't be able to change the world, yourself, anything, if you don't change yourself inwardly, deeply, enduringly.
In a smaller church your pastoring sets up your preaching. In a larger church your preaching sets up your pastoring.
But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God.
Reason can get you to probability, but only commitment can get you to certainty.