I think the second, or outsider's, perspective can come as you layer a story. It's as though you've grabbed a secondary character and asked them, "What do you make of this guy?" and the hope is that the answer surprises you as the writer.
I think one's person's unlikeable is another's lovable.
Being a reporter took me out of myself and that shaped me as a writer.
One good thing the teaching has given me is the ability to read and revise my own work.
I'm always relearning things I thought I'd learned for good a while back.
I tend to listen to my friends and family empathetically, and I try to help work through their problems from the inside. I try to adopt their thinking.