My observation of Christendom is that most of us tend to base our relationship with God on our performance instead of on His grace.
Tullian TchividjianYou are not obligated to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and find a way to conquer the odds, to be stronger or transform yourself into some better version of yourself. The pain you are feeling (whatever the degree) may be a reminder that things are not as they should be.
Tullian TchividjianThe lifeblood of Christianity is not our persistence in moving toward God but God's persistence in moving toward us.
Tullian Tchividjian