Grief, of course, is not something that operates according to a specific time frame, and it seems cold to suggest otherwise. Yet when we do not grasp that God is present in pain, we eventually insist on victory or, worse, blame the sufferer for not "getting over it" fast enough. This is more than a failure to extend compassion; it's an exercise in cruelty.
Tullian TchividjianWhen it comes to understanding and appreciating grace, our biggest problem is our so-called goodness...not our self-perceived badness.
Tullian Tchividjian