Change is usually preceded by some kind of drift.

It's an interesting thing to be in your forties and evaluate success and take ownership of some disasters and some pain and try to forgive a little bit - yourself and others.

Motherhood definitely took the focus off of my work. And I didn't mind. I had a few panics when I thought that if I wanted to work I couldn't get a job anymore and then I would get one once in a while and it would make me feel better.

But I think it is always difficult to have high expectations of yourself or anyone else.

When I was first going through my separation, someone said to me, 'It will take you half as long as you were in the relationship before you'll feel better.' And I wanted to knock them out cold across the table. Because, of course, I was in agony. And the last thing I wanted to think was that I was going to stay that way for a long time.

Tall, sandy blonde, with sort of blue eyes, skinny in places, fat in others. An average gal.

I do think that what's wonderful in life is that we gain perspective as we take on different roles that are mind and heart opening.