It will be difficult to break the habits of thinking Abnegation instilled in me, like tugging a single thread from a complex work of embroidery. But I will find new habits, new thoughts, new rules. I will become something else.

Sometimes you just need to talk to someone who is detached from you. They just listen to what you tell them and you get to form the way that they see you, whereas everyone else in your life already thinks they know what you're dealing with or what you're going through. That's my recommendation for actual anxiety.

You can't be fearless, remember? Because you still care about things. About your life.

I like to think I'm helping them by hating them. I'm reminding them that they aren't God's gift to humankind.

He is strong, and lithe, and certain. And he is mine.

Are you asking me to undress, Tris?' A nervous laugh gurgles from my throat. 'Only ... partially

Sometimes,” he says, sliding his arm across my shoulders, “people just want to be happy, even if it’s not real.