It will be easier for you to bring him around to where you want him more by gentleness and patience than by being too uncompromising.

Without [firmness] I see the majority of Communities that are lax reach that state because of the excessive leniency of Superiors. So, be firm, Monsieur.

I am determined, even if they throw mud in my face, never to show any resentment, nor break with them, nor deviate from the esteem and honor I owe them in the sight of God. If they forget themselves and say or do something offensive against your little bark, even if it is done purposely to make it sink, bear with it for the love of God, who will save you from shipwreck and calm the storm. Do not complain or even say a single work about it. In spite of everything, continue to compliment them when you meet, as if nothing were amiss.

So, do not dwell any longer on what you are, but consider Our Lord close by you and within you, ready to put His hand to the work as soon as you call upon Him for help, and you will see that all will go well.

Is it not better to fail after asking advice than to risk acting on our own?

. . . in the final analysis, virtue is not found in extremes, but in prudence . . .

God always gives a great blessing to humble beginnings than to those that start with the chiming of bells.