When thinking won't cure fear, action will.
Unless your goal is against the laws of God or society, you can achieve it.
If there is something to gain and nothing to lose by asking, by all means ask!
PMA is the right mental attitude for each specific occasion. It has the power to attract the good and the beautiful. NMA repels them. It is a negative mental attitude that robs you of all that makes life worth living.
If you know what you want, you can find a way to get it.
You too can determine what you want. You can decide on your major objectives, targets, aim and destination.