I believe, along with many others, that you must first ask for what you want before you can have it.
Each year I become more mindful of being thankful for each life experience.
In some areas I am more noted for reading then I am for cookies!
You can make your life whatever you want it to be
It's vital to be growing through your life rather than going through your life. The object is not to change other people or situations; it's to do the inner work they stimulate.
You may not be responsible for getting knocked down. But you're certainly responsible for getting back up.