Without children, men have more liberty to earn less - that is, they are free to pursue more fulfilling and less lucrative careers, like writing or art or teaching social studies.

And with the rape, I was showing why the rape statistics are exaggerated, and saying that date rape was much more complex than the way feminists had portrayed it, as men oppressing women.

Men move through a much different process before commitment than women do.

Companies like I.B.M. have offered women scholarships to study engineering for years, and women engineers routinely get higher starting salaries than men.

So we've moved from an era when women's biology was women's destiny to today, which is an era in which men's biology is men's destiny.

Nobody has said to men, It is OK if you want to be a full-time dad; find a woman who will support you.

Feminists have confused opportunity with outcome.