Two people who were once very close can without blame or grand betrayal become strangers. Perhaps this is the saddest thing in the world.
Warsan ShireWarsan means "good news" and Shire means "to gather in one place". My parents named me after my father's mother, my grandmother. Growing up, I absolutely wanted a name that was easier to pronounce, more common, prettier. But then I grew up and understood the power of a name, the beauty that comes in understanding how your name has affected who you are.
Warsan ShireMy name is indigenous to my country, it is not easy to pronounce, it takes effort to say correctly and I am absolutely in love with the sound of it and its meaning. Also, it's not the kind of name you baby, slip into sweet talk mid sentence, late night phone conversation, whisper into the receiver kind of name, so, of that I am glad.
Warsan ShireYou are terrifying, and strange, and beautiful. Something not everyone knows how to love.
Warsan ShireI know a few things to be true. I do not know where I am going, where I have come from is disappearing, I am unwelcome and my beauty is not beauty here. My body is burning with the shame of not belonging, my body is longing.
Warsan ShireThe ego hurts you like this: you become obsessed with the one person who does not love you. blind to the rest who do.
Warsan ShireWhen I love, I love: wholly, thoroughly, completely, drowning in everything. Every glance can be a conversation, eyes just playing and saying what needs to be said. Silence is loud, and the air becomes heavy. I want you. I want all of you.
Warsan ShireThe sun is perfect and you woke this morning. You have enough language in your mouth to be understood. You have a name, and someone wants to call it. Five fingers on your hand and someone wants to hold it. If we just start there, every beautiful thing that has and will ever exist is possible. If we start there, everything, for a moment, is right in the world.
Warsan ShireGive your daughters difficult names. Give your daughters names that command the full use of the tongue. My name makes you want to tell me the truth. My name doesn't allow me to trust anyone that cannot pronounce it right.
Warsan ShirePerhaps, the problem is not the intensity of your love, but the quality of the people you are loving.
Warsan ShireI think in Somali, I cuss in Somali, when I'm afraid I reach for somali and this language is very rich, very filling. It's an unflinching language; the crudest most terrible things sound perfectly normal in Somali.
Warsan ShireLight attracts light. But sometimes your light attracts moths and your warmth attracts parasites. Protect your space and energy
Warsan ShireDon't assume, ask. Be kind. Tell the truth. Don't say anything you can't stand behind fully. Have integrity. Tell people how you feel.
Warsan ShireI tore up and ate my own passport in an airport hotel once. I'm bloated with language I canโt afford to forget.
Warsan ShireAt the end of the day, it isnโt where I came from. Maybe home is somewhere Iโm going and never have been before.
Warsan ShireIt's not my responsibility to be beautiful. I'm not alive for that purpose. My existence is not about how desirable you find me.
Warsan ShireApathy is the same as war, it all kills you, she says. Slow like cancer in the breast or fast like a machete in the neck.
Warsan ShireDocument the moments you feel most in love with yourself - what you're wearing, who you're around, what you're doing. Recreate and repeat.
Warsan ShireMake peace with your body, it's not manmade, there are no flaws, there are no mistakes.
Warsan ShireAnd you tried to change, didn't you? Closed your mouth more. Tried to be softer, prettier, less volatile, less awake... You can't make homes out of human beings. Someone should have already told you that. And if he wants to leave, then let him leave. You are terrifying, and strange, and beautiful. Something not everyone knows how to love.
Warsan ShireMake love like you have no secrets like you've never been left never been hurt like the world don't owe you a single wretched thing.
Warsan ShireWhy do you live in your body like you will be given another? As if it were temporary. You starve it, you let anyone touch it, you berate it. Tell it that it should be completely different. You tug at your soft flesh, wish it thinner, wish it gone. You fall in love with those who praise the way it sighs under their hands, but who praises the way it holds up your weight, even when you are falling apart?
Warsan ShireIโm not sad, but the boys who are looking for sad girls always find me. Iโm not a girl anymore and Iโm not sad anymore. You want me to be a tragic backdrop so that you can appear to be illuminated, so that people can say โWow, isn't he so terribly brave to love a girl who is so obviously sad?โ You think Iโll be the dark sky so you can be the star? Iโll swallow you whole.
Warsan ShireI won't glorify or romanticise heartbreak, for me it was a kind of death and I was forced to keep living.
Warsan ShireIโm overwhelmed. My biggest downfall is my brightest blessing, I feel too much, all the time. Ya Allah, if itโll keep my heart soft, break my heart every day.
Warsan ShireSad people have the gift of time, while the world dizzies everyone else; they remain stagnant, their bodies refusing to follow pace with the universe. With these kind of people everything aches for too long, everything moves without rush, wounds are always wet.
Warsan ShireEssentially, if our secrets are secrets because we are told to be ashamed, then we must share them. There is no shame in being sad or struggling or trying to heal. We are all desperate, depraved and sacred. We are all terrible and brillIant. I can list all the things that can make a girl want to escape her own body (re: patriarchy). But Iโd rather list all the things that make me want to stay in my body, and adorn it like a home, rub oils into my skin, tell it how sorry I am for trying to leave, for trying to hurt it into submission
Warsan ShireMy favourite people, biggest inspirations and closest friends are all women. Not a coincidence.
Warsan ShirePoetry is like a portrait of a moment or person, and the poem is almost like looking at a photograph; it slaps you in the face and kisses you at the same time. Nothing else does that, with that brevity. Songs try to do it, but that's three minutes. A poem, you read it and it kind of changes your life and you don't know how it happened and you can never forget it. It's like the best song lyric, the best line from a film-everything in the world that's short and great put together.
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