One suggestion is to regard your personality as a pet. It follows you around anyway, so give it a name and make friends with it. Keep it on a leash when you need to, and let it run free when you feel that is appropriate. Train it as well as you can, and then accept its idiosyncrasies, but always remember that your pet is not you. Your pet has its own life, and just happens to be in an intimate relationship with you, whoever you may be, hiding there behind your personality.
Wes NiskerAfter a few years of meditation practice we can even learn how to occasionally ignore ourselves. And what relief that can be!
Wes NiskerA belief in reincarnation would at least give us some slack; we would have many lifetimes to get it right.
Wes NiskerAs strange as it sounds, meditation may reveal that we are happier than we thought we were. We may discover that ancient conditioning rather than present circumstances is causing our dissatisfaction , and that this moment is quite sufficient or even wonderful, and we simply hadn't noticed.
Wes Nisker