True modesty and true pride are much the same thing: both consist in setting a just value on ourselves - neither more nor less.
William HazlittBy retaliating our sufferings on the heads of those we love, we get rid of a present uneasiness and incur lasting remorse. With the accomplishment of our revenge our fondness returns; so that we feel the injury we have done them, even more than they do.
William Hazlitt