Responsibilites and expectations are the basis of guilt and shame and judgement, and they provide the essential framework that promotes performance as the basis for identity and value.

If you and I are friends, there is an expectancy that exists within our relationship. When we see each other or are apart, there is an expectancy of being together, of laughing and talking. The expectancy has no concrete definition; it is alive and dynamic and everything that emerges from our being together is a unique gift shared by no one else.

The enemy of a writer is not controversy but obscurity.

Image and appearance tell you little. The inside is bigger than the outside when you have the eyes to see.

I often find that getting head issues out of the way first makes the heart stuff easier to work on later.

Relationships are never about power, and one way to avoid the will to power is to choose to limit oneself - to serve.

I had a very angry father and was disconnected from my family.