Most of the cruelty in the world is just misplaced energy.
Tell the truth through whichever veil comes to hand - but tell it.
One thing you learn about the novel as a form is that it's always smarter than you are.
The lack of alternatives to an illegal action does not legitimise that action.
Your mid-thirties is a good time because you know a fair amount, you have some self-control.
The past is always tense, the future perfect.