If a man is crossing the river and an empty boat collides with his skiff, even though he is a bad tempered man he will not become very angry. But if he sees a man in the other boat he will scream and shout and curse at the man to steer clear. If you can empty your own boat crossing the river of the world, no one will oppose you, no one will seek to harm you. Thus is the perfect man - his boat is empty.
ZhuangziThe fish trap exists because of the fish: once you have gotten the meanings, you can forget the words.
ZhuangziEither in conflict with others or in harmony with them, we go through life like a runaway horse, unable to stop.
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