Are You Emotionally Unavailable?

Find out whether you're guarded, balanced, or fully open with your emotions

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Emotional availability is one of those fascinating human qualities that can shift depending on our past experiences, our personality, our relationships, and even our mood on a Tuesday afternoon. Some people wear their hearts like Christmas lights—bright, visible, and impossible to ignore. Others tuck their emotions away like a well-hidden gift in a holiday movie. And then there are those who fall somewhere in the middle: open enough to connect, cautious enough to protect their hearts, and always evolving.

➡️ How Petty Are You?

Maybe you’re someone who feels things deeply but rarely shows it. Maybe you’re the type who throws your whole heart into relationships with cinematic intensity. Or perhaps you float through life with a calm emotional rhythm, neither overly guarded nor fully exposed. This quiz helps you understand where you fall on that spectrum—not to judge you, but to give clarity. Emotional availability affects everything: communication, relationships, boundaries, vulnerability, trust, and even the way you react when someone texts “we need to talk.”

➡️ Are You an Introvert, Extrovert, or Ambivert? Take the Quiz!

Think of emotionally open characters like Lara Jean Covey from To All the Boys I've Loved Before, who embraces connection with sincerity and softness. Then imagine the emotionally cautious types, like Fleabag from Fleabag, who uses humor as both shield and sword. And of course, the balanced personalities—like Randall Pearson from This Is Us—who feel deeply but also struggle, grow, and learn how to navigate their inner storms. These figures reflect the many ways emotional availability can look and feel.

➡️ Your Mental Health Check-In: How Are You Really Doing?

As you move through the next seven questions, pay attention to your instincts. Do you lean toward vulnerability or protection? Do you open up readily or only in rare, deliberate moments? Do you find it easy to connect, or does intimacy make you want to sprint away like you're in an Olympic event? There’s no wrong answer—only self-awareness waiting to happen.

➡️ Are You More Human or AI? Personality Test

By the end of this quiz, you’ll discover whether you're emotionally unavailable, selectively open, or beautifully transparent with your feelings. And who knows—maybe this clarity is the first step to understanding your heart just a little better.

How do you react when someone asks how you *really* feel?

I tell them openly I give a partial truth I dodge the question

What's your instinct in new relationships?

Lead with vulnerability Go slow and steady Build walls first

Pick a character you relate to most:

Lara Jean Covey Randall Pearson Fleabag

How do you handle emotional conflict?

Talk through it Process, then respond Avoid it if possible

Your reaction to someone expressing affection:

I reciprocate easily I warm up slowly I freeze internally

Choose a relationship motto:

Honesty builds connection Patience makes it work Feelings are… complicated