Fairy Tale Love: 7 Myths Romantic Movies Made Us Believe  

Romantic movies are great when we need to unwind and distract ourselves from the everyday life. But when it comes to love and relationships, they are not just inappropriate, but harmful.

Often romantic movies instill unattainable standards in men and unreasonable expectations in women. And we end up wondering what is wrong with us that we don't keep encountering that love like in the movies. Dear ladies, nothing is broken in you! It's just that these movies are made for entertainment and do not carry credibility.

Today, we're taking a look at seven of the most common misconceptions found in almost every romantic comedy.

He'll do anything for you

He'll probably change the oil in your car, take you on romantic dates (at least in the beginning), help you with the heavy bags, hold the door for you (if he's a gentleman) and give you gifts for occasions. If you're lucky, maybe he'll also change light bulbs at home and take care of the house. But no, he probably won't move to the other side of the world for you, he won't give up his friends, he won't stop talking to his mom, he won't ask for a serious relationship if he's not ready for it, he won't quit his job, etc. Lots of people make big gestures for us, and it's entirely possible that your beloved is among them. If so, great, congratulations. But don't expect that it goes hand in hand with every relationship.

Someone will change themselves and give up everything

Another big misconception from romance movies is that when we meet the right person, we will give up our current life and dedicate it solely to our new relationship. We've seen it all in these movies - how the philanderer suddenly becomes faithful, the man who doesn't want kids changes 180 degrees and even has 3, the bully becomes kind, the liar becomes sincere, the lazy person becomes disciplined and finds the perfect job... And all because they found the right woman. The truth is that in working relationship compromises are made on both sides. But even the compromises are in moderation. If you go so far as to change the person, you're with, maybe you're not with the right person.  

There is a single crisis in the relationship

Romantic movies teach us that no matter how happy we are with our new lover, there will inevitably be a hurdle to overcome. In the movies, it's often due to some misunderstanding, a petty scandal, an ex or exes who sabotages our relationship. But in the end, love conquers all and by overcoming the obstacle, we can now enjoy a harmonious and happy relationship. In reality, however, obstacles are many and rarely due to misunderstandings.

Happily ever after…

In both fairy tales and romantic comedies, there is rarely any talk about what happens after the happy ending. That cloudless love we dream of rarely exists. Every relationship has its ups and downs, there's always a falling out with a person, a reconciliation, a quarrel now and then. And all this actually strengthens our relationship. You realize you're living in the "Happily ever after..." phase when you feel that instead of solving the problems between you, you've started solving your problems together, as a team.

Knight on a white horse will save you from everything  

There will hardly be a horse, his car may be white, but we can't talk about knights and saviors anymore. Many men have protective instincts towards women, they like to patronize and help them. But many are completely devoid of these feelings and even on the contrary - they expect that women will save them by helping them in every aspect of life. So don't wait for a savior or a knight. Rather seek a partner while learning to save yourself.

The grand gesture

You love each other, but for some reason you can't be together. You go to the airport heartbroken and when you least expect it... There he is, with a big bouquet of roses and a teddy bear, breathless and inspired, running towards you to tell you how much he loves you and wants you to stay with him. This is perhaps the biggest fallacy of romance movies. The "grand gesture" is a concept that exists mainly out there - in the movies. Maybe you'll meet someone who is willing to gesture and compromise for you, hopefully! But generally, when you break up, you stay apart. And gestures, if any, are rarely on such a scale.

There is only one person perfect for us

There are undoubtedly people for whom there is only one perfect person. We probably all know someone who is still with their high school sweetheart, has never had another relationship, and is happy. But this is not the mass case. We meet different people who are perfect for us at different stages of our lives. At 20 we look for some qualities in our partner and at 30 for others. Sometimes we ourselves change and grow to the point that the perfect man for us is actually not at all who we are with. The best thing is when we find a partner who changes with us. Maybe then the love will be lasting too, and why not eternal.