People change, but there really are limits. One thing you discover in psychoanalytic treatment is the limits of what you can change about yourself or your life. We are children for a very long time.
Adam PhillipsThe vocabulary of one’s self-criticism is so impoverished and clichéd. We are at our most stupid in our self-hatred.
Adam PhillipsThere is always a ..belief that by destroying the thing that we love we destroy our needs
Adam PhillipsWe have been taught to wish for it, but the wish to be understood may be our most vengeful demand, may be the way we hang on, as adults , to our grudge against our mothers; the way we never let our mothers off the hook for their not meeting our every need. Wanting to be understood, as adults, can be our most violent form of nostalgia.
Adam Phillips