Deep inside you know / when trouble comes / and there's no one else to turn to / you can call on each other / and count on each other ... / because each other / is all you have.
Adele FaberNo one cares / who is better / who is worse / who has more / who has less. / Content in our connectedness / we are brothers and sisters / after all.
Adele FaberFrom their struggles to establish dominance over each other, siblings become tougher and more resilient. From their endless rough-housing with each other, they develop speed and agility. From their verbal sparring they learn the difference between being clever and being hurtful. From the normal irritations of living together, they learn how to assert themselves, defend themselves, compromise. And sometimes, from their envy of each other's special abilities they become inspired to work harder, persist and achieve.
Adele FaberWhen we give children advice or instant solutions, we deprive them of the experience that comes from wrestling with their own problems.
Adele FaberLet us be different in our homes. Let us realize that along with food, shelter, and clothing, we have another obligation to our children, and that is to affirm their "rightness." The whole world will tell them what's wrong with them--out loud and often. Our job is to let our children know what's right about them.
Adele Faber