to design means forcing ourselves to unlearn what we believe we already know, patiently to take apart the mechanisms behind our reflexes and to acknowledge the mystery and stupefying complexity of everyday gestures like switching off a light of turning on a tap

The best cure for one's bad tendencies is to see them in action in another person.

Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don't get on with machismo. I'm interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that's what we are.

We keep a special place in our hearts for people who refuse to be impressed by us.

I passionately believe that's it's not just what you say that counts, it's also how you say it - that the success of your argument critically depends on your manner of presenting it.

An argument in a couple: 2 people attempting to introduce each other to important truths - by panicked shouting.

Art holds out the promise of inner wholeness.