It is not selfish or narcissistic to love yourself. It is your first and foremost responsibility.
Don't postpone joy until you have learned all of your lessons. Joy is your lesson.
There is virtue in work and there is virtue in rest. Use both and overlook neither.
You cannot instill joy. You can only find where it lives and bring it forth.
Be at peace with your choices.They all serve you.
Simply be who you are, do what you do best, be where you are called by joy, and let life work its magic on your behalf.