Revisit your past only to recognize how far you have come.
It is not selfish or narcissistic to love yourself. It is your first and foremost responsibility.
Ask for peace first, and you will clearly see your next step.
If you are losing your peace in your quest for peace, you are not on the road to peace. The road to peace is peace.
The thoughts you think when you are happiest are the closest to the truth.
As you recognize that you already own the wholeness you seek, and no one outside you can give you more than you already are, dysfunctional situations will evaporate like bad dreams exposed to the morning sun.