I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.

We'd better work hard on getting rid of that must - Other people must do what I want them to do!" It's what makes people hostile, nasty, mean and combative, and it leads to feuds, wars and genocide. We'd better do something about that.

The individual is taught that there is nothing that he as a total person is to feel ashamed of or self-hating for.

Whenever you avoid alarming situations, you almost always increase your anxiety about them.

By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit.

It is only in your mind that you have to excel, at anything or everything. Of course, it would be very nice to excel at most things. Indeed, we recommend that you try and do your best. But realistically, you are entitled to do the bare minimum to get by. All your accomplishments are just a bonus, something to enjoy, not requirements. You don't have to do anything to prove that you are worthy of existing.

Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.