Whining about your own, others', or the world's failings is a main element in what we usually call neurosis.

The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you feel better. But you don't get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action.

Strong feelings are fine; it's the overreactions that mess us up.

I would have liked having children to some degree, but frankly I haven't got the time to take the kids to the goddamn ballgame. So it would have had more disadvantages than advantages for them.

We'd better work hard on getting rid of that must - Other people must do what I want them to do!" It's what makes people hostile, nasty, mean and combative, and it leads to feuds, wars and genocide. We'd better do something about that.

People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. They always have the power to think, and to think about their thinking, and to think about thinking about their thinking, which the goddamn dolphin, as far as we know, can't do. Therefore they have much greater ability to change themselves than any other animal has, and I hope that REBT teaches them how to do it.

Neurosis is just a high-class word for whining.