Stop shoulding on yourself

Failure doesn't have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.

I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs. In that sense, psychotherapy belongs in the schools.

I'm one of the best-loved psychologists in the United States, but I'm also probably the most hated one.

Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own.

My rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT) was one of the very few therapies that was originated partly or largely because I wanted to be brief and efficient. And therefore right from the start I was active and directive. I tried to show people some central masturbatory core to their philosophy and to get them to work at changing it cognitively, emotionally and behaviorally.