Stop shoulding on yourself

In a sense, the religious person must have no real views of his own and it is presumptuous of him, in fact, to have any. In regard to sex-love affairs, to marriage and family relations, to business, to politics, and to virtually everything else that is important in his life, he must try to discover what his god and his clergy would like him to do; and he must primarily do their bidding.

Even when people act nastily to you, don't condemn them or retaliate.

Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.

It is only in your mind that you have to excel, at anything or everything. Of course, it would be very nice to excel at most things. Indeed, we recommend that you try and do your best. But realistically, you are entitled to do the bare minimum to get by. All your accomplishments are just a bonus, something to enjoy, not requirements. You don't have to do anything to prove that you are worthy of existing.

Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.

I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.