Laughter, and the broader category of humor, are key elements in helping us go on with our life after a loss.

In looking for humor, keep in mind this guideline: Sometimes it takes a little time to see the humor in your upsets; you may not find something to laugh about immediately.

Zen teaches that once we can open up to the inevitability of our demise, we can begin to transform that situation and lighten up about it.

Humor does not diminish the pain - it makes the space around it get bigger.

Now, a recent study from cardiologists at the University of Maryland, has shown that laughter may have a beneficial effect on the heart.

I contend that not only can you laugh at adversity, but it is essential to do so if you are to deal with setbacks without defeat.

No matter what has happened, you too have the power to enjoy yourself.