Marriage is not a ritual or an end. It is a long, intricate, intimate dance together and nothing matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner.

Boundaries are the lines we draw that mark off our autonomy and that of other people, that protect our privacy and that of others. Boundaries allow for intimate connection without dissolving or losing one's sense of self.

Some people are your family no matter when you find them, and some people are not, even if you are laid, still wet and crumpled, in their arms.

My writing process, such as it is, consists of a lot of noodling, procrastinating, dawdling, and avoiding.

There is no such thing as a good writer and a bad liar.

All intimacy is rare-that's what makes it precious.

Be real and unashamed. Even of your faults.