All intimacy is rare-that's what makes it precious.

Bad people doing bad things is not interesting. What I find interesting is good people doing bad things.

The past is a candle at great distance: too close to let you quit, too far to comfort you.

Boundaries are the lines we draw that mark off our autonomy and that of other people, that protect our privacy and that of others. Boundaries allow for intimate connection without dissolving or losing one's sense of self.

My writing process, such as it is, consists of a lot of noodling, procrastinating, dawdling, and avoiding.

Marriage is not a ritual or an end. It is a long, intricate, intimate dance together and nothing matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner.

Learning to listen, letting people finish their sentences, and most of all, the habit of noticing the difference between what people say and how they say it. {on the habits of psychoanalytic training and practice applied to fiction writing} The gap between what people tell you and what's really going on is what interests me.