I once won a second prize in a history concert. My parents came to the ceremony. Somebody else had won the prize for best all-around student. Afterwards my father said to me, 'Never, ever disgrace me like that again.' When I tell my Western friends, they are aghast. But I adore my father. It didn't knock my self-esteem at all.

Parenting cannot just be one size fits all.

My goal as a parent is to prepare you for the future, not to make you like me.

I kind of - I like my life, I feel I have lots of opportunities. And my parents actually having had such high expectations for me - I would say it's the greatest gift that anyone has ever given me. I complained a lot when I was little, but that's how I feel now. And that's why I tried to do the same with my two daughters.

A Western upbringing tends to stress questioning authority, which is always asking why, why, why.

Be modest, be humble, be simple.

Chinese parents believe that their kids owe them everything.